Posted by blamethebanjo on Wednesday, May 7, 2008
When Paul McCartney wrote that song and The Beatles put it on their Sgt.Pepper's album I'll bet that seemed like a million years away to him.Now at age 64 he probably wonders where the time went.This isn't a story about The Beatles but about change.
My son and his wife have been having some rough times for a while and it is affecting their children in a big way.To be fair I have to say that my son has control issues and that is the source of the trouble.If he does not deal with it I am afraid he will end up alone.I plan to have a father/son talk with him but I don't know if he will listen.Afterall I am an old fossil.
The two of them went on a small two day getaway Monday and Tuesday.Their two children,our wonderful and bright grandchildren stayed with us.We made bannana splits and home made pizza and I played the banjo for them.I don't believe they wanted to go home when the time came.
Thinking about the situation during their stay I got an idea to bring out the video tape of their parents wedding.Sort of a look back to the happy time when they were the only two people in the world.Full of excitement and hopes and dreams looking to the future.For better or for worse.When my son and my daughter in law returned I told them of the film we all watched and ask them to come back when they had the time to watch it too.For richer or poorer.
It was a bittersweet event for my wife and I to sit there and see the events unfold.It was 1991 and many of the dear friends and family members who attended have passed on.Our Pastor,my Dad,Cathy's Grandmother and some of our close friends.But doesn't that make it crystal clear? To me it puts everything in perspective.The people you love are not going to be here forever and every moment spent fussing over trivial matters or making situations that will cause ill feelings are wthout merit.
The interaction I had with those who have gone on is forever sealed in time. I can't go back and fix my mistakes.I can learn and make sure to treat the ones I have now in a way that won't haunt my memory at some future time.If we could look into the future ten or fifteen years what a difference it would make.
I hope my Son and Daughter in law (Daughter) come soon and watch those happy moments.I feel like it will rekindle the flame that is still there.I believe they will see what I saw and realize they are are fortunate.That life is going by swiftly so that one who is yours to have and to hold should be cherished more than gold.The video is priceless.A little clip of our time here together.Maybe we should all act like we are being video taped all the time.In a way, we are.
5 comments on “When I'm 64...”
FiddlerFaddler Says:
Wednesday, May 7, 2008 @12:50:06 PM
Hie thyself to Amazon.com or barnesandnoble.com and find the book by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott titled, The Control Freak. It is priceless for understanding how to cope with a control freak, and/or taming the one within. Have both your son and daughter-in-law read it.
BryanWB Says:
Wednesday, May 7, 2008 @1:19:03 PM
Hi Darrell - to step in or not to step in, that is the question - but I think, in your case, sounds like all your family loves you and would really appreciate help from you - it might just be that they don't want to ask - just the offers lets them know you want everything to be ok with them. You're such a great, thoughtful guy. All the very best, Bryan.
blamethebanjo Says:
Wednesday, May 7, 2008 @1:26:19 PM
Thanks FiddleFaddler, I will look into that book.
Thank you Bryan, I always like to hear from you. I take what you say very seriously and appreciate you.
bjango53 Says:
Wednesday, May 7, 2008 @2:13:15 PM
Very insightful and well written Darrell. Your a caring and thoughtful father and Grandfather and thats the best thing in the world for your son and his children, they are very lucky. Stay strong for them. Good luck, Brian.
blamethebanjo Says:
Wednesday, May 7, 2008 @3:11:58 PM
Thank you Brian.I sure don't want anything to happen to them.God bless you.
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