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Homeless No More

Posted by twayneking on Tuesday, November 27, 2012

My wife and I have been living in a hotel for the past 2 weeks. She spent the previous week in a hospital. Before that we moved out of our room in the house we were sharing with in-laws. We moved ourselves up here to Washington to help the in-laws, exhausting our savings in the process. The sister had two major surgeries and my wife helped her. We cooked, cleaned and paid $600 a month for a room and bathroom and a little storage space. The deal was we'd share the house and never have to worry about a place to live.

As soon as the state upped the sister's check again so they could afford to make the payments on their own, suddenly the situation turned toxic.  My wife has bipolar and before it was over she was in the hospital twice.  The brother-in-law got into a screaming match with her and told her to get her @#%$% and get out. He is older and has developed a pattern of chewing someone out every three days like clockwork.  The day I left, he called Hershey Chocolate to chew them out for putting "refrigerate after opening" on their chocolate syrup bottles because it made it "hard to pour" when the syrup was cold. He made the customer service girl cry. 

I had to move my wife away from that kind of stress.  So we saved for five months and then left.  We couldn't find a place to live and when my wife broke down in the middle of all that stress and had to be hospitalized, it took all our reserves. 

We prayed our way through the last three weeks. So far, we've managed to find enough money to stay in a cheap hotel and eat irregularly (lots of ramen noodles and spaghetti-o's).  Meanwhile, I've been getting more writing jobs than I can handle including a big grant-writing contract.  Sunday, we stumbled on a carriage house for rent - really wonderful people renting it. Nice woodsy place. Quiet and low stress.  The guy owns a music store and even offered to sell me a banjo at cost when I was ready to buy one.

God truly works in mysterious ways to take care of His banjo playing children. How cool is that?   - Tom

11 comments on “Homeless No More”

Jane C Says:
Tuesday, November 27, 2012 @3:10:57 PM

Very cool Tom. What a time you've had. Things can only get better. Good luck with your writing jobs and may that banjo be yours sooner than later.

twayneking Says:
Tuesday, November 27, 2012 @3:35:41 PM


RatLer Says:
Tuesday, November 27, 2012 @5:00:06 PM

You folks have really been through it..I'll pray that you get back on an even keel!!!

twayneking Says:
Tuesday, November 27, 2012 @6:32:45 PM

You never think you'll wind up in a bad spot like this, but it can happen to almost anybody if all the right conditions come together. You never think your family will turn on you, either but they do. God stays by you though. Him you can count on. My church was there for me. I had friends and family there too. You find out really quick when you get into this sort of pickle just who your friends and family really are.

ronhan Says:
Wednesday, November 28, 2012 @3:34:22 AM

Hey Tom. I'm glad things are better now. They say God never gives you more than you can handle, but sometimes he pushes it right up to the limit. :)

rinemb Says:
Wednesday, November 28, 2012 @7:17:01 AM

Tough story. I am glad you have a little peace right now,and the path will lead to contentment and prosperity. Brad

Laurence Diehl Says:
Wednesday, November 28, 2012 @10:20:52 AM

Wow - I wish I could say I've never heard of family turning on family like that but unfortunately, I hear it all too often. Good news on your recent bright prospects. You just have to get through 8 more months of rain and you'll have it beat!
...and I bet I am one of the few on here who can correctly pronounce "Puyallup".

twayneking Says:
Wednesday, November 28, 2012 @3:43:12 PM

That's another thing that irritates me about my brother-in-law. He got it in his head it's pronounced "Poo-Yall-up". Despite the fact that everyone in Western Washington pronounces it either "Pew - all - up" or "Pew- al - up", he insists on pronouncing it "Poo-Yall-Up". He mom, all her sisters and his grandmother all contracted Alzheimer's. He's about 70 and is becoming forgetful and sporadicaly picks fights with someone. He particularly likes to buy stuff, find something wrong with it and go back and chew out the girls in customer service or the manager. We asked him why. He said "Because they give me free stuff." There's no sense of that being at all wrong. I just do NOT understand people like that.

Laurence Diehl Says:
Thursday, November 29, 2012 @11:15:51 AM

The sad thing is, if they get in trouble again, you'll be the first one they turn to. And if you refuse, that makes you an A-hole (can't win).

twayneking Says:
Wednesday, December 5, 2012 @10:15:13 PM

Ain't it the truth....

HoosierGal Says:
Monday, February 11, 2013 @11:43:44 AM

How awful for the struggles, I'm so glad it has eased up and you're finding some footing. Sometimes in the middle of such things we find exactly where we're meant to be. I hope this turns out beautifully for you.

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