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Will The Circle Be Unbroken - The Fall Of 2011

Posted by Peanutscreams on Saturday, February 4, 2012

We excitedly looked forward to -

September 19, 2011 - the arrival of my wife's Mom (Helen) for a visit to our Oregon home. We spent the warm week hiking, browsing, cooking and being tourists. Helen was to fly back to NY after a month's stay with us.

But on Sept 30, we received word from Indiana that my mom's, health was failing,  who knew how much time she had. After prayerful decisions, we canceled Helen's flight home to NY and set off to drive cross-country to spend some time with my mom. This would be our 8th cross country trip since we retired in 2006, except this trip was not planned.

Our oldest dog, Peanut was aging with failing hearing and eyesight and we hadn't planned on going anywhere with him; also unbeknownst to us, he had beginning stages of kidney failure.

On Oct 6 we set out, and arrived in Greensburg, Indiana a week later to my mom's health care facility, who although bed-ridden, was very happy to see us. We spent the next 2 weeks visiting my mom every day.

Mom seemed on the road to recovery and we had been thinking of perhaps looking for a home in the East to be closer to our families so we headed for the beaches of Wilmington, NC. We and our doggies just love the beaches. So we spent 2 weeks exploring homes and places to live, eventually moving our home search closer inland to the Winston-Salem area.

Our dog Peanut had been drinking a lot of water and having to go out more frequently. He had 2 indoor accidents at hotels which was not like him so we began to monitor him thru the night and take him out every few hours. 

While away, we stayed in touch with my mom best we could by texting, (She loved to text us). We decided to drive Helen home to NY rather than fly her from North Carolina.

We had at one time lived in upstate NY so Peanut already had a vet there, so we went for a visit. The lab tests confirmed his failing kidneys along with an infection and pancreatitis. He had to go on antibiotics and a bland diet.

On Nov 15, we arrived back in Indiana. During this time, Peanut's condition deteriorated, so another visit to a vet in Greensburg, this vet advised that putting him to rest might be best. We weren't ready to say goodbye to Peanut so we nursed him day and night with his kidneys failing while at the same time nursing mom with her kidney's failing.

We spent every single day chatting with mom when she was able,  playing hymns and giving sips of water as she started to become weak. We drew close to each other and remembered good times gone by. There were several nights when the family stayed the entire night as she was not expected to make it through till morning, yet she did. Pastors would come in while we all prayed over her knowing she was on her way. Morning would break and there she would be sitting up demanding her mighty shake.

Thanksgiving came and went and she finally rested her head on the Lord's shoulder the next day. The moment was so very sad, she fought death so hard, but we were all there holding on to her trying our best to comfort her and let her know it was okay to go.

Here was a woman, a girl herself with 6 kids when she lost her first husband, then sadly another, who fought for what she believed in and survived life's hardships. She also put to rest a baby sister, a daughter, a grandson and a brother. How she loved the snow and waited for it that November. A favorite nurse, Christi, although she herself disliked winter, promised mom that she would open that window on the first snowfall and let the snow fly in! She loved fiercely the things that she loved and she believed in her God. Her life touched us all deeply and forever and when we laid her to rest that November morning, the first Indiana winter snowflakes fittingly fell fast, and by nigh fall the snow was deep over her grave.

We arrived home on Dec 6 to care for Peanut with head colds and fatigue, but thankful for the precious time spent with both of our moms.  

We made a decision to stop trying to plan things for right now and just "be".
The ocean is beautiful. While we were away running in all directions, it has been here the whole time peacefully doing what it does. We will just gratefully ebb and flow with it as time and the Pacific Ocean heal all things.

​It's been three months since Peanut's brush with the vet's good-bye needle, and he is loving his life and doing just great! - The circle had not been broken - God Bless.

​Butch B.

4 comments on “Will The Circle Be Unbroken - The Fall Of 2011”

RB4picker Says:
Sunday, February 5, 2012 @9:57:57 PM

Very nice word picture you painted Butch. Your family is lucky to have you.

Peanutscreams Says:
Monday, February 6, 2012 @9:42:11 AM

Thank you very much David.

edhanzel Says:
Saturday, February 11, 2012 @8:31:58 AM

Wow...hard to keep a dry eye reading that. You clearly show your love for both of them in your writing. God bless you and your family

Peanutscreams Says:
Saturday, February 11, 2012 @10:26:35 AM

That was a very nice comment Ed, thank you. God is still about what he has always been about all along. - "Love". God bless you and yours as well.

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