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Don't touch my banjo!

Posted by lousymom on Monday, November 28, 2011

So, I'm finally starting to get the hang of this banjo. It is starting to sound like something when I play. I can play a few songs now...SLOWLY. 

But, I'm developing a little problem. I have a number of friends who play guitar. That's lovely. They do a fantastic job. But when they visit my house, they like to walk in, pick up my banjo, and start "teaching" me things about the banjo. They play around with it a little and then try to show me some music theory, etc. Then, they try to explain, in length, some concept that I don't get at all. This phenomenon is making me decidedly grumpy.

First of all, I'm still working on where to put my damn fingers, so I'm not really to the point of understanding whatever a 1-4-5 something or other is. Second, while I appreciate help, I do not appreciate showing off. I would prefer to turn to BANJO players to help with my banjo playing. Plus, all the banjo players I have met are actually helpful. 

Has anyone else run into this or am I just needlessly grumpy because I'm not progressing as fast as some other people think I should be? 

15 comments on “Don't touch my banjo!”

Cotton-eyed Joe Says:
Monday, November 28, 2011 @2:52:53 PM

Just leave a note on her sayin don't touch ...

Cotton-eyed Joe Says:
Monday, November 28, 2011 @2:54:14 PM

Just leave a note on her sayin don't touch ...

Cotton-eyed Joe Says:
Monday, November 28, 2011 @2:55:11 PM

Just leave a note on her sayin don't touch ...

Cotton-eyed Joe Says:
Monday, November 28, 2011 @2:56:12 PM

Just leave a note on her sayin don't touch ...

lousymom Says:
Monday, November 28, 2011 @3:19:14 PM

Lol. I am totally going to do that. Maybe a note that says, "banjo players only!"

Texasbanjo Says:
Monday, November 28, 2011 @3:42:44 PM

You might want to tell your well intioned friends that they're not helping, they're hidering by completely confusing you and that you'll ask for their help after you have a little more experience picking the banjo -- might work. If not, then use the note: DO NOT TOUCH THIS BANJO!

banjotef Says:
Monday, November 28, 2011 @3:56:41 PM

Just hide the banjo when they visit.

Dead Wood Says:
Tuesday, November 29, 2011 @5:34:52 PM

The people are trying to humiliate you into givig up on the jo its sounds like to me lousymom. Its not my business but why do you call yourself a lousymom? Back to the jo you let them talk and let it go and learn and practice when the people are not there. Dont let them damage your progress by trying to slow you down and discourage you in any way. Just take your time and learn your way and then pick and practice and you will progress no doubt. They are truly showing off in front of you to impress you maybe? Are they dudes or dudettes pickin and trying to tell you the theory of music? Just laugh and let it pass over your head and learn from jo pickers not from people who just want to humiliate you so you will think that they are great pickers and you are just a want to be picker. show them up by practicing and getting good and then tell them to play rhythm for you and pick and grin and let them wonder how you learned so well with out them...I learned by myself and heck people still cant accept it so Im sure its the friends not wanting to accept that you are learning to do somehting that they maybe cant do. Oh and put your banjo out of sight when you know that they are comeing and put it in a place that they wont know where to get it out from and start showing you how to pick you jo. IM Tommy saying hello and good luck with your picking..

Kevin G Says:
Tuesday, November 29, 2011 @7:03:33 PM

When I first got a banjo, my brother kept messing with it whenever he would visit, kind of hoping that I'd not stick with it and end up giving it to him. As I continued to take lessons and get better, he was startled that I was actually keeping at it. That's the approach you need to take. If it bugs you when guitarists come by and monkey around with your banjo, hide it or don't get it out. You can even politely decline to let them use it. But keep going. Progress might seem slow at times, but once you start to feel more comfortable with it, you'll realize just how uninformed some of these people are about the banjo. And then you'll feel pretty good about all the progress you've made.
Cheers to you, and keep going,

lousymom Says:
Wednesday, November 30, 2011 @10:06:48 AM

Hey Tommy, I go by lousymom because when you're raising two kids on your own with school and work and everything else, that's just how you feel a lot of the time. I think it is showing off and it seems to be both. I just keep doing my own thing. I don't know enough yet to even get what they're talking about, but I have started keeping it away when people come by. I'm happy with my progress, but it is slow. I know it's slow. I'm ok with that. I'm putting the don't touch note on too.

Kevin, cool that you did so well. Congrats. I'm hoping I get to a point where I can really play for other people and show progress. :)

banjobarry1 Says:
Wednesday, November 30, 2011 @6:37:30 PM

I figure that your friends really think that they are hepling when in reality they are probably slowing you down. I play multiple instruments myself but rairly offer advise to others unless they ask. Being self taught I think everyone needs to learn their own way in their own time. Hang in there you'll do good. And I'll bet you are a fine Mom.

RB3Deering Says:
Monday, December 5, 2011 @12:36:01 AM

I completely agree with the other comments. Keep your friends away from your banjo and don't start playing with them until you feel that you're ready. Do this on your own terms Shelly. That's what I did. Just remember, us banjo pickers must stick together. ;)

lg9455 Says:
Monday, December 5, 2011 @7:59:00 AM

My son is a music major out of college, He can play any instrument he picks up. I can't get him to play the banjo because he says it is my instrument and he would not want to show off in front of me. I thank him for that attatude because I have admired him for his God given talent with music. mabe if you would explain to your friends that you admire their talent but this is your instrument and explain that you are not to the point of understanding what they are talking about it might help.

lg9455 Says:
Monday, December 5, 2011 @8:02:51 AM

If not then hide your banjo, tell your friends they made you feel so bad that you sold it and you don't want to talk about it anymore, then when they leave get it out and pick a song you know.

lousymom Says:
Monday, December 5, 2011 @8:07:48 AM

Hahaha. I like that idea. I actually put a sign on it. It's worked like magic. Without having to say anything, I think my friends have realized the banjo is off limits. Too bad my kids are too young to read...

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