Posted by u k sandra on Sunday, November 22, 2009
One month ago today my sister-in-law and best friend lost her long fight with cancer. Its only three and a half months since we were camping together at Guildtown. I still can`t quite believe she`s gone. We went through so much together. Almost every week for the last four years I`ve sat with her while she had her chemo. I`ve felt every needle they stuck in her and cried every tear with her and knew she would do exactly the same for me. She was the reason we first started going to festivals. She liked camping and we liked banjos. We went to Ireland for the banjo festival. to Guildtown for the Scottish Bluegrass festival five times and to Peterbourgh for the old- time festival. We had a wonderful time. I don`t think I could face another festival without her. I was lucky because her and I knew ten days before she went that she didn`t have long to go, so we were able to say all of the things that so often don`t get said. She didn`t want anybody else to know and we managed to keep it from them right until the last few days. I was with her holding her hand when she died. Just the two of us, very peaceful. I`ll miss her forever but I`m very thankfull for the 40 years I had her. RIP Kath.
18 comments on “One month one.”
Gcapo2A Says:
Sunday, November 22, 2009 @3:13:37 PM
I feel for your loss. Nearly all my family and friends have gone. I know how you feel. You were lucky to say the things you needed to say. She was lucky to have a friend in you.
Nelson Says:
Sunday, November 22, 2009 @8:06:23 PM
I am sorry that you have lost such a good friend. She will always be in your heart.
TopCat Says:
Monday, November 23, 2009 @5:37:58 AM
Very very sorry to hear that Sandra. My mother went the same way at the age of 50 so I do know how it feels......and I can tell you that the years do ease the pain slightly. And music does help too - eventually.
Laurence Diehl Says:
Monday, November 23, 2009 @12:56:18 PM
It sounds like she died on her own terms - like my mum, had her last cup of tea, closed her eyes and died in her living room. It is hardest for those left behind, but at least you got to say the important things before she died - we so often don't.
Laurence
twayneking Says:
Monday, November 23, 2009 @5:28:05 PM
Our condolences to you and yours and you are in our prayers.
dgill Says:
Monday, November 23, 2009 @5:31:37 PM
I know your loss and understand how you feel. I lost my sister at the age of 51 with cancer. She was out of the hospital one day from April to January the following year. I felt so helpless and wished I could take her place many times.
She was my friend, my family and next to my mother, she was the best woman I ever knew. Stay strong, live well and enjoy all the memories that you shared together.
u k sandra Says:
Tuesday, November 24, 2009 @1:10:51 AM
Thanks, all of you. I`m sure I`ll see her again when my time comes. While I`m waiting, I have a million wonderfull memories. Nobody can take them away from me.
wkb28791 Says:
Wednesday, December 9, 2009 @4:48:43 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss. You were wise to take advantage of the time you had with her.
Life is so short.
u k sandra Says:
Thursday, December 10, 2009 @1:36:18 AM
Thanks Ken. Have you noticed that the older you get the quicker time goes. its frightening.
bigeasy Says:
Thursday, January 21, 2010 @12:23:19 PM
Sandra only saw this tonight, haven't been on the site for a while but my thoughts are with you,
John
u k sandra Says:
Thursday, January 21, 2010 @1:14:34 PM
thanks John. I don`t think I`ll ever get to see you at Guildtown now. It wouldn`t be the same without her.
dkmarshall Says:
Tuesday, January 26, 2010 @12:51:30 AM
Sandra, when you're ready, come join us again at Sacrewell. We'd love to see you. You have a lot of friends there who will help and support.
Dave
u k sandra Says:
Tuesday, January 26, 2010 @1:33:38 AM
Thanks Dave, I`d love to go back to Sacrewell. Maybe one day. Hopefully the weather will be better next time. I`ll do my best.
Take care,
Sandra
BryanWB Says:
Saturday, January 30, 2010 @2:52:45 PM
So sorry to hear about your friend and memories are such wonderful treasures aren't they Sandra?
Bryan.
saphine Says:
Saturday, January 30, 2010 @5:06:04 PM
I'm very sorry too Sandra. Will miss seeing you at Guildtown this year, meeting up with you again was one of my reasons for going back. Hopefully one day you will be able to return, possibly as an honour to your friend.
Elizabeth
u k sandra Says:
Sunday, January 31, 2010 @1:38:22 AM
Thanks both of you. I don`t think i`ll ever stop missing her. 40 years is a long time but the memories are wonderful. I`ll miss Guildtown. I made some great friends there. Maybe i`ll get back one day.
Julio B Says:
Friday, February 26, 2010 @5:18:31 PM
Hi Sandra, Julio here . . .
My very deepest condolences on your loss. May you be at peace.
u k sandra Says:
Saturday, February 27, 2010 @2:41:37 AM
Thanks Julio. It`s lovely to hear from you. I had no idea you were on the hangout. It`s now four months and five days and I still miss her every day.
Take care.
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