Posted by Banjophobic on Wednesday, May 22, 2013
A buddy of mine was surfing the web an came across this guy "Fid", who was recently banned form the BHO for his posting behavior. Apparently, it was all my fault and I have deep seated mental issues ( I already kew that..lol). He sent me a link to this guys blog. I've read not just the blog about the BHO , which he despised it seems, but about many other things.
Let me say that I have nothing personal against him, but he's full of it I believe. check out the blog about me. It really was entertaining to read. You may agree with his assessment of me as a BHO member...I do not,haha. Its good to know that for every one person who likes you, theres one who hates your guts....hehe.
I was also not aware that I have "hundred of soundfiles posted" and that Im at best a "mediocre player" and that this '"enrages me"...HAHAHA. I dont disagree with anyone's opinion of my playing..they have a right to judge that as they see fit. But being 'enraged over' being mediocre is hilarious. Whew, you can't make up stuff this funny. I think I just peed a little....
Thursday, May 23, 2013 @3:33:07 AM
Not many birds in his flock, me thinks.
Thursday, May 23, 2013 @4:24:44 AM
I read the blog. It's pretty sick. He states "One of the things I've noticed about internet forums is that most of the people who spend lots of time there are usually very angry, they have the self loathing syndrome, they are know-it-alls, and they are bullies."
...pot ... meet kettle ...
John, I would not lose sleep over this moron...
Thursday, May 23, 2013 @4:38:24 AM
Let them hate me as long as they play with me. - Cicero.
Thursday, May 23, 2013 @4:50:28 AM
Ditto. I wouldn't lose one second of sleep over this person.
FWIW my experience is that unknowingly a critical person will alway choose to accuse others of what they themselves are guilty of or afflicted by. There's anger and chippiness running right through his blog. He had his chance to play nice with the guys and got shown the door. Now all he has left is to talk to himself. Bet it's not the first time either. Clearly he's the type who never learns, thinks he's always right and yet wonders why the same reaction from others follows him like a bad smell.
Thursday, May 23, 2013 @5:16:28 AM
O the shame, to be called a egomaniac and gloater by the likes of "The Fid" :-)) :-)) I wouldn't loose any sleep over this, or spend any more of your time on this.
Thursday, May 23, 2013 @5:54:32 AM
"I think I just peed a little...." You'll probably find that gets worse as you get older John lol...........
Thursday, May 23, 2013 @5:57:20 AM
Yeah, Im not going to give this any time or attention. Probabaly shouldn't have even posted about it but after seeing it on his blog, it really was amazing how vehement he despises me..all over some posts on an internet forum. Now I feel bad for him and hope he gets his act together. It doesn't matter to me what he says about me or his opinion of me as a player or person-thats his right. But from his posts on the BHO and now this blog, it seems he has a pattern of alienating folks around him. It must be a lonely way to live. I never once took any of the exchanges between us personally, on my end anyway.
Why is it these days people can't separate what happens on BHO from reality and get so defensive is some disagrees with them? When you click off the BHO everything should stay here..sheesh. Oh well
Thursday, May 23, 2013 @6:05:18 AM
I guess that's one way to get someone to read your 'blog'....at least a half dozen of us have read it so far....no need to visit it again though... :-D
Thursday, May 23, 2013 @7:00:37 AM
I have always found your posts informative and educational without a hint of ego. The proof, your blog has comments and as of a few minutes ago his had none. Keep up the good work you do on BHO.
Thursday, May 23, 2013 @7:07:31 AM
It is a shame that it went that way. I will say, not in Fid's defense, that when people post a topic or post music that they have a lot of themselves invested in the post. Many of the reactions are personal because the poster has indeed put something personal on the site. Responses to a post are not always heard as comments about a minor chord, but about the heart you put into that chord. In the same way most of us are not trained writers so we may not hear the response we post in the same voice as the many people who will read it. In the same way that the same piece of music can be played to make you happy or sad, the paragraph we type can be played many ways in the head of the reader. This is one of the hazards of an open forum.
Thursday, May 23, 2013 @8:10:17 AM
Damn John, you must really be stuck in his craw for him to blab on like that.
Thursday, May 23, 2013 @8:19:00 AM
Rgoad, thats very true and we sometimes misinterpret intent in these postings. But in Fid's case, on these threads where he an I had disagreement, it was simply a case of me calling him out on things he said. He was making some pretty broad, and not nice, things to say about all BHO members and their banjos. There was no malice at all in me replying. I simply stated that I found his posts to be insulting to us here. I try my best to be level headed and I also never want to make any of my postings personal or ugly. But I will defend folks from verbal abuse on a thread. I care about the folks here and I don't stand by and let someone demean and insult them.
Thursday, May 23, 2013 @8:19:53 AM
Torpedo, tell me about it. I was shocked but then again, I shouldnt be-people are amazing.
Thursday, May 23, 2013 @8:23:36 AM
Just to be clear..in my previous post I was referring to Fid's Blog "no need to visit again"...I appreciate all of John's blogs and post... :-)
Laurence Diehl Says:
Thursday, May 23, 2013 @8:57:39 AM
Even knowing that the guy is a moron, if he wrote that stuff about me, it would make me pretty angry! You have our support, as always.
Thursday, May 23, 2013 @8:59:15 AM
What did FID call you "MEDIOCRE" and a few other names ..Well i dont even know what it means ,,but you ain't it.What you are is one excellent musician and willing to help person .Talent ,,you got it my friend .
Smelly Old Gibby Says:
Thursday, May 23, 2013 @9:38:36 AM
If you are mediocre, I might as well hang it up for good. Or, merely aspire for mediocrity. I would love to be able to pick like you.
Thursday, May 23, 2013 @10:56:25 AM
What a hoot. On Fid's blog he states that he ran into the same 'know it all' problems on some Beatles site and a digital multi track recording site. He goes on to explain this proves the problem is with internet forums.
I guess this was not an obvious enough clue for him that the problem might just be much much closer to home.
Thursday, May 23, 2013 @11:15:51 AM
Is there cyber-therapy for cyber-bullying? This is too stressful to deal with right now. I'm going to have a virtual Valium and a digital Latte and go back to watching Real Housewives of wherever....
Thursday, May 23, 2013 @11:34:04 AM
Textbook example of projection.
Thursday, May 23, 2013 @11:48:13 AM
Gee, Eric must be sad that there's under 100 active users....the other 77,000+ couldn't take your ego & bullying, John... ;-)
Thursday, May 23, 2013 @8:16:14 PM
I refuse to take anybody seriously who hides behind anonymity. My take is that he is a desperately confused, self-centered and angry person. I sure wouldn't worry about it. You're a good guy in my book, and we've never met.
Friday, May 24, 2013 @9:37:54 AM
Oh well, its not biggie and not worth much time to talk about. I appreciate everyone's input and comments. Oh, I see he added an edit that say over 60 people have viewed his blog, and he assumes its "BHO folks". I wonder why none of them left comments like 'yeah, that BHO is a rotten place to be"...lol
Saturday, May 25, 2013 @6:37:50 PM
Well I went and read his rant and it is obvious to everyone that he has a real problem. I did not bother to read the post he was referring to because I read all I needed to in his blog to figure out pretty quick this guy is struck on himself and for him to call you mediocre is pitiful. You are a fantastic musician as well as a great guy from what I have seen so far and I fall into the group of members that love watching your LOTW videos and your posts here on the hangout. I know you are not losing sleep over it and I wouldn't be either.
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