Banjo Hangout Logo
Banjo Hangout Logo

Premier Sponsors

918
Banjo Lovers Online


Dec 7, 2021 - 4:15:31 AM
likes this
34660 posts since 3/5/2008

Receive a kindness ..
Give a kindnes...

I like to think I am a willing participant...

Do you play...?

Dec 7, 2021 - 4:49:59 AM

Texasbanjo (Moderator)

USA

26689 posts since 8/3/2003

A couple of the local anchors at one of our TV stations is doing a bit on pay it forward. One of them took over the drive-through window of a local fast food place and bought coffee/soft drinks for anyone who drove up.

I do my best to pay it forward. I make baby clothes/blankets for newborns at the hospital. I used to make chemo caps for cancer patients.

One time, many years ago, Dave and I were eating lunch at Applebee's and when it came time to pay, the waitress told us our meal had been paid for. We wanted to say thanks but she said the man had already left. Talk about pay it forward and ask for nothing in return. That taught us a good lesson and occasionally we'd do the same.

Dec 7, 2021 - 5:36:21 AM
likes this
Players Union Member

wizofos

USA

6209 posts since 8/19/2012

We are careful to help local charities so that people in your county and local area are helped. Too often charitable donations are consolidated and sent out of your area.

Dec 7, 2021 - 5:45:35 AM

dat

USA

31741 posts since 7/26/2006

Hard to decide what charities are actually doing good and how many are creating jobs for themselves, we try on the individual level and through our church to help when we can

Dec 7, 2021 - 5:55:33 AM

75315 posts since 5/9/2007

I grew up helping others whether they were broke down asea and needed a tow home,needed help with food (giving away fish and lobsters) or helping build a home,shop or engine.
We didn't give it a title...it was just something we did because we care about each other and believe what was taught in church.

I just see it as helping someone that needs help because it's the right thing to do.

Dec 7, 2021 - 6:04:09 AM

1485 posts since 9/6/2019

quote:
Originally posted by dat

Hard to decide what charities are actually doing good and how many are creating jobs for themselves, we try on the individual level and through our church to help when we can


I stopped helping national level charities long ago. When their director makes more money per year than I do it ceases to be a charity in my opinion. The only national level thing I work with is Toys for Tots. I do everything else locally. I run food drives year round, I coach youth sports, I'm a scoutmaster for a local troop and I do volunteer work around the community. This time of year we hear a lot about charitable giving, but folks need help in July just as much as they do in December. I tend to do a bit more this time of year because I have a soft spot for kids though.

Dec 7, 2021 - 6:13:53 AM
likes this
Players Union Member

DC5

USA

22003 posts since 6/30/2015
Online Now

I give to a few charities every year, but I'm not sure that's what the OP was looking for.

As far as paying it forward goes, I frequently do what I can when I can - especially when I was teaching. I'm a firm believer in anonymous giving, so I treat any pay it forward event the same as I treat loans made to friends or family. I forget about it as soon as I do it. If the loan gets paid back, it's a surprise to me. If it doesn't, I don't fret about it because I've already forgotten about it. There are a very few rare instances when I expect thanks for something that I've done. Sherry mentioned having her meal paid for at a restaurant. I've done this many times, often for veterans who are wearing their veteran cap. I've also done it for families that have several well behaved children sitting with them. I always tell the waitress not to tell them where it came from, and that I'd already left. Once, my wife and I were eating at a restaurant in Rhode Island and overheard our excellent waitress telling another table about how she was on break from college and what she was studying. We left her a 100% tip.

Dec 7, 2021 - 8:29:04 AM
likes this

12835 posts since 1/15/2005

quote:
Originally posted by DC5

I give to a few charities every year, but I'm not sure that's what the OP was looking for.

As far as paying it forward goes, I frequently do what I can when I can - especially when I was teaching. I'm a firm believer in anonymous giving, so I treat any pay it forward event the same as I treat loans made to friends or family. I forget about it as soon as I do it. If the loan gets paid back, it's a surprise to me. If it doesn't, I don't fret about it because I've already forgotten about it. There are a very few rare instances when I expect thanks for something that I've done. Sherry mentioned having her meal paid for at a restaurant. I've done this many times, often for veterans who are wearing their veteran cap. I've also done it for families that have several well behaved children sitting with them. I always tell the waitress not to tell them where it came from, and that I'd already left. Once, my wife and I were eating at a restaurant in Rhode Island and overheard our excellent waitress telling another table about how she was on break from college and what she was studying. We left her a 100% tip.


Just about the same here Dave.  Like you, I do not "loan" money because I don't want to be disappointed if I am not repaid.  If I can afford it and I know the money is going to be accepted because of a need I just give it and consider it gone.  Before I could really afford it, I and a bunch of other guys each put $2000 in a fund to help a young aspiring professional golfer play on the European Tour.  A couple of years later I received a check for $1800 from him after he had made enough money to repay most of it.  I never expected a dime, and none of us would have ever known the difference if he had kept all of his prize money rather than paying us back.

We prefer to give to local charities, such as food banks, and shelters for abused women, etc.  We still give to quite a few nationwide charities, but are real selective.  One really good one, that we used to give to, but for some reason do not anymore, is St. Jude's Children's Hospital.  We should probably start back giving to them.  They do great work for children from all over the world.

Dec 7, 2021 - 12:43:23 PM
like this

Tommy5

USA

3974 posts since 2/22/2009

I give blood every few months to save the lives of strangers. My 0+ blood is very valuable , hopefully I never need someone to pay it forward to me by me having to need blood.

Dec 7, 2021 - 1:44:44 PM
like this

chuckv97

Canada

61530 posts since 10/5/2013

When one does a good deed it’s better not to tell anyone… wrecks the karma, & keeps ego out of it.

Dec 7, 2021 - 1:49:52 PM
likes this

dat

USA

31741 posts since 7/26/2006

We used to have people come in the shop and talk about what all they give, mostly just for bragging, then i would see people that i knew had given more, they never said a word about it.

Dec 7, 2021 - 1:50 PM
like this

m06

England

10689 posts since 10/5/2006

Banjo is a natural grassroots activity for paying kindness forward.

Over the years I’ve been shown a lot of kindness by fellow banjo and fiddle players. I’ve always held that is on the understanding I extend the same to others when the opportunity arises.

Edited by - m06 on 12/07/2021 13:51:13

Dec 7, 2021 - 3:42:35 PM

Brian T

Canada

18998 posts since 6/5/2008

It's clear that there are individuals and families in this little village that are as poor as rats.
They can't even afford the gas to move away.

Over the years, I have learned some ways and means to help out a little.
I get great satisfaction for the connections to do that.

Dec 7, 2021 - 4:29:21 PM
like this

3964 posts since 7/8/2010

A lot of satisfaction can come from random acts of kindness. Nice post, Al.

Hangout Network Help

View All Topics  |  View Categories

0.21875