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Dec 3, 2021 - 3:48:21 PM
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rinemb

USA

14247 posts since 5/24/2005

Many of us have had to take our faithful dog to be “put down” for the benefit of our beloved dog. It’s one one the toughest things I have had to do…a couple of times.
Recently, I read of the following story from a vet who we ask to do this. God bless the vets who do this for us, eh! But a vet shared this story. Faithfully, our vets perform this rightful deed, and ask nothing of us. But one vet wants us to know this…
So often as the dog is alone with the vet, the dog senses what is happening, and the dog will look around, wondering where it’s friend and caretaker is at this time the dog is saying goodby.
So, I hope next time I have to do this. I have the strength to go into the room and be with faithful loving pet when that time comes. I am still weeping, hearing this story…brad

Dec 3, 2021 - 3:56:24 PM

7393 posts since 9/5/2006

yes sir,,its one of the hardest things to do... our last dog passed in the night and i found her the next morning.. it was tough. my wife is still mourning and missing her. i have had to put down a couple of dogs and 1 horse,, the all rip your heart out...

Edited by - 1935tb-11 on 12/03/2021 15:56:49

Dec 3, 2021 - 4:20:45 PM

2472 posts since 7/20/2004

Ron Thomason of Dry Branch Fire Squad used to do a lead in to "Green Pastures" with a story about putting a favorite horse down. Still brings tears to my eyes just remembering it.

Dec 3, 2021 - 4:28:06 PM
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J e f f

USA

3740 posts since 12/16/2009

When we put our Jaxon down this week, we left the room just before the vet put him down. I am feeling guilty about it, but I keep trying to tell myself that he wasn't really mentally there anyway. He wasn't responding to us when we were saying our goodbyes.

Dec 3, 2021 - 5:02:22 PM
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donc

Canada

6825 posts since 2/9/2010

It's a awful price for being a loving master and having a great pet . Having to do the final trip to the vet is only because we care deeply about the pet needlessly suffering . Our only immediate reward for doing that awful job is more suffering for ourselves. Some things in this creation don't seem to square with right and wrong.

Dec 3, 2021 - 5:36:43 PM

2663 posts since 5/2/2012

We've had to put down several cats and dogs over the years, and lost others to cars (we live in the country). When they are with you a long time, they become part of the family. When I go in with them to the vet, I try to share a story about them with the vet, so they know how important they were in our lives. The hardest so far was my oldest daughter's cat. She passed some time before him and he was my connection with her. We now have 3 older cats and one 14 year old dog. I'm a dog person and I am not looking forward to the day I need to bring her to the vet the last time.

Dec 3, 2021 - 6:19:13 PM
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Brian T

Canada

18998 posts since 6/5/2008

I take my strength, what little I have, from advice given to me by a vet technician in a popular animal clinic.

She said: "The day is going to come when you have a choice. You can walk that animal in here with some sense of dignity or, you can drag that animal in here on a blanket. What's it going to be?"

Dec 3, 2021 - 6:29:55 PM
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Bill Rogers (Moderator)

USA

25514 posts since 6/25/2005

I’ve been with the last several of my cats who were euthanized. Makes it easier for the animal and makes one confront the reality of death. I dread waiting too long and prolonging suffering since so many animals fight so hard and long to survive.

Dec 3, 2021 - 6:58:32 PM

Brian T

Canada

18998 posts since 6/5/2008

Heidi-cat was crawling down the hall. Using her front claws in the carpet to drag her butt towards the kitchen.

I have decided that my single regret is that I didn't pick her up for hugs and snuggles often enough in the last couple of years.

Dec 3, 2021 - 7:20:31 PM
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12835 posts since 1/15/2005

quote:
Originally posted by rinemb

Many of us have had to take our faithful dog to be “put down” for the benefit of our beloved dog. It’s one one the toughest things I have had to do…a couple of times.
Recently, I read of the following story from a vet who we ask to do this. God bless the vets who do this for us, eh! But a vet shared this story. Faithfully, our vets perform this rightful deed, and ask nothing of us. But one vet wants us to know this…
So often as the dog is alone with the vet, the dog senses what is happening, and the dog will look around, wondering where it’s friend and caretaker is at this time the dog is saying goodby.
So, I hope next time I have to do this. I have the strength to go into the room and be with faithful loving pet when that time comes. I am still weeping, hearing this story…brad


Brad ..... we have a great vet.  Last year when we had to put our little Westie, Adare, down my wife and I were in the room with the vet and his assistant. My wife held Adare as the vet first gave her a sedative shot and then a few minutes later gave her the final shot and she expired peacefully as my wife still holding her.  He wrapped her in a little blanket and we carried her home where we buried her next to Katie our Chocolate Lab for 13 years.  That was an awfully taxing day.

A friend of mine's vet told her once that it is better to put you dog down two weeks too early than a week too late.  I agree.  Regardless it is always tough.

Dec 3, 2021 - 7:50:10 PM

284 posts since 10/26/2018

Our very is such a sweet man and he has helped 3 of our cats and two of our dogs cross the rainbow bridge, always with dignity. And my wife and I were there with them. He even made sure our last cat was "comfortable" and in a naturally curled position after she was sedated before the final shot. Much respect to the veterinarians out there.

Dec 4, 2021 - 4:30:28 AM
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rinemb

USA

14247 posts since 5/24/2005

My wife held on to our 26 year old cat all night while the cat comfortably and peacefully passed on, at home. I still tear up a bit to think about it.
I buried it in our backyard with a small remembrance on the ground above her. The kids came over and we held a little ceremony. They barely knew life without that cat. They read their favorite cat poems and we each told a story about the kitty.
Brad

Dec 4, 2021 - 5:04:30 AM
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Texasbanjo (Moderator)

USA

26689 posts since 8/3/2003

I've had to put down 4 dogs and a cat during my lifetime and each one was more difficult than the last, if that's possible.

I never could stay in the room while my dog died. I just couldn't. The last one I put down, I did stay until the vet gave them a tranquilizer. When the dog went limp, I knew he was past needing me and I left. Did I feel guilty? Yes, but I also knew what I was doing was the best thing for the dog. Dave was never able to stay with me or the dog(s) during that time. He was just too soft hearted.

I still miss each and every animal I have ever had and hope I did the right thing at the right time and for the right reason.

Dec 4, 2021 - 8:06:33 AM
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kww

USA

1478 posts since 6/21/2008

I've had to do this twice. Both Grizzle and Lady died in my lap, having one of their favourite treats while the doctor injected them.

Hard? Sure. But worth it.

Dec 4, 2021 - 12:20:04 PM

4199 posts since 10/18/2007

Two years ago our wonderful little dog developed mouth cancer and the vet told us it was time. At home I called Tippy to take her to the vet and she came running to me with a toy in her mouth, ready to play “catch me with the toy.” I totally fell apart.

Dec 4, 2021 - 12:46:13 PM
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1024 posts since 3/4/2008

I can no longer have a dog in my life. My dogs were always my friends, no I never was "My dogs father" that always seems to diminish what being a dog is. It has always been my duty and privilege to be with my animals to witness their last breath. Some people seem to understand and others don't think deeply enough when I say, "I can't have another dog, I've killed to many of my friends." It has always been my belief that to bring an animal into your home/life you need to accept that you will have a friend that you will keep, feed and give the very best life possible and you will eventually need to know when that life needs to end. It's hard but you need to be there to help it happen. ................... I miss all my animal friends.

Dec 4, 2021 - 2:33:18 PM
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m06

England

10689 posts since 10/5/2006

So far I’ve had to do this once. I cuddled my 17 year old cat in my arms while the vet gave her the shot. Many years later still not something I care to recall how emotionally hard and raw that was. But it ends pain and suffering for our beloved friend. We all do that journey to the vet out of love. The threads on here from members who’ve just been through that same tough journey get me every time.

Edited by - m06 on 12/04/2021 14:40:16

Dec 4, 2021 - 4:08:40 PM
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rinemb

USA

14247 posts since 5/24/2005

I admire so many of you that held your special friend while doing what was right. I guess a vet never suggested that to me. The vets were good folks, I am sure they trying to spare me the pain. But I should have been there! Brad

Dec 4, 2021 - 4:29:38 PM
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4495 posts since 12/6/2009

our pets are always in our arms when they go to sleep. its quiet and peaceful and quick. do not leave them alone.

Dec 4, 2021 - 4:48:50 PM
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15368 posts since 12/2/2005

I have been there every time. It gutted me every time. But I couldn't not be there for them.

This is not a value judgment of those who have chosen to leave the room. It's horrible either way. I just figure it's the last thing I can do for creatures who have given me so much.

Odds are I will do it at least once more. With the grace of God, more times than that. It sucks, but that's part of the deal we make with Him when he allows us to bring them home, and experience the joy they bring us.

Dec 4, 2021 - 9:41:59 PM
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Last April 13th we had to the vet put our beloved King Charles Cavalier, Bodie down. We got ahold of our neighbor and told them we had to do this. He had congestive heart failure for a year. The neighbor's daughter 12 grew up with Bodie. The parents asked if she could come over before school to say goodbye because it would crush her to come home find out Bo was gone. That dog laid in my wife's arms just barley holding on. The daughter told Bo that she loved him so much.
That dog opened his eyes and gave her a big lick across the face. Then he laid his head back down on my wife. Not a dry eye from any of us. Not a dry eye as I'm typing this now. It is something that is so hard to do but must be done to stop suffering. We lost his companion cavalier 3 months later. We have not got over either of them yet. They were special to us and everyone they meet.

I'm sorry for anyone who loses a beloved pet.

Dec 4, 2021 - 11:27:33 PM

4098 posts since 4/22/2018
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I’ve been with my dogs every time. I wouldn’t be able to walk away and leave them in there last moments. Our vet will come to your house so that the pet is in its own environment. Sadly due to the urgency we weren’t able to do that with our previous Spaniel, Dusty, so my wife and I held and petted him in the surgery until he passed. I know it is each to their own, but after the years of loyalty and love, there is no way I wouldn’t be there with them, however hard it is at the time.

Dec 5, 2021 - 7:22:46 AM

1177 posts since 11/17/2005

quote:
Originally posted by Brian T

I take my strength, what little I have, from advice given to me by a vet technician in a popular animal clinic.

She said: "The day is going to come when you have a choice. You can walk that animal in here with some sense of dignity or, you can drag that animal in here on a blanket. What's it going to be?"


It's a tough situation. My little 16 yo Yorkie's kidneys failed in May. She was ill. I slept next to her and held her all night. I thought she would be gone the next morning, but she wasn't.  My wife took her to the vet. They tried to help her that day, but she didn't improve and I felt it was time. I miss that little girl so much.

Her sister, from another litter, fell ill. The vet showed us that her liver was badly swollen. Liver values were off the chart. They said she would die soon & recommended putting her down. My wife called me sobbing. 

Their diagnosis didn't make sense to me.  I told my wife to bring our dog home. 

She is a hospitalist. I asked her to take some time and think about what we could do to nurse her back to health. 

Long story short,  my wife decided on a med and got a vet to write a script. She was on it for a year or so. We completely changed her diet and started feeding her real food.  

That was over 3 years ago.  She's 15 and has no liver issues.  

I'm so glad we didn't listen to the vet.

Dec 5, 2021 - 8:12:02 PM

Ron C

USA

1499 posts since 3/17/2004

This topic gets to me every time.

One of our Greyhounds has osteosarcoma, common in this breed. Having lost another Greyhound to osteo, we were prepared to put this one, Asher, down. Fortunately, the vet suggested that we wait to decide about the alternatives: putting him down, chemotherapy, amputation of the leg to the shoulder, or just palliative care. There is little difference in life expectancy with each of the alternatives. We chose palliative care until he showed signs of discomfort or other health change. That was a year ago. Often, there are just days or weeks after the diagnosis of osteosarcoma before the dog succumbs. We consider this last year with him a gift.

We have stayed with all our pets who were put down. I have filled many veterinarians' trash cans with tissues. Our other Greyhound that had osteo showed absolutely no signs until the end. She ran to me in the backyard, yelped, and picked up her front leg that was bleeding. It turned out to be a compound fracture where cancer had destroyed the bone. There was no doubt in our mind that she had to be put down. That was a tough experience.

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