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Mar 1, 2021 - 6:29:12 PM

mander

USA

4559 posts since 10/7/2007

I thought my hobbling was not noticeable. I try my best not to "favor" an injury because I believe doing so only moves the problem from one place to another. Alas, I was not as sly as I thought. A few days ago, a woman I did not know came up to me with a box of brand new Hoka One One shoes. "Here, you look like you could use these."

I was shocked to say the least, but having lost my pride eons ago, I didn't say "Thanks, no thanks," to this miraculous gift. I put them on! My feet hurt less after an eight hour shift than they had after 48 hours of rest. I've worn these shoes two days now, and my feet pain is entirely gone. That's the up side. The down side? Now that my feet don't hurt, I realize I tweaked my knee! ;-)

I tend to believe that most people are kind, but I have to admit, I never expected something like this from a stranger. I hold doors open for strangers. I smile and tell them to have a nice day. I don't recall ever presenting a stranger with a gift this thoughtful and helpful.

What is the nicest thing a stranger has done for you or you for them?

Mar 1, 2021 - 6:51:55 PM
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Owen

Canada

8238 posts since 6/5/2011

... copied and pasted from the BHO guidelines for posting: "....not sure if it's acceptable? It probably isn't. :-)  "     

Oh, to be young! ..............  and that's all I'm gonna say 'bout that!!  smiley

Edited by - Owen on 03/01/2021 18:59:45

Mar 1, 2021 - 9:55:54 PM

Brian T

Canada

17987 posts since 6/5/2008

Tie one hand behind your back and go grocery shopping. I put my cane in the cart and get along OK until it's time to leave. Trying to carry stuff is really frustrating. I have had some wonderful gestures of help. It's never the store staff. If you can't look after yourself, you shouldn't be in here in the first place.

Mar 1, 2021 - 11:09:41 PM
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Paul R

Canada

14205 posts since 1/28/2010

Changed the flat tire. Outside the antique market on the outskirts of Deseronto. The guy just came up and started working on it. All I had was a ten-dollar bill (or was it a five?) - I'd spent everything (not much) in the antique shop, and had to force him to take it. (I didn't drive until after I'd retired.)

Mar 2, 2021 - 12:44:27 AM
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3239 posts since 4/22/2018

I once was asking on a hunting forum about the best place to get some equipment for taking my son and our ferrets rabbiting - you need nets for the holes and a locator with collars to make sure you don’t lose them underground as a bare minimum. A chap I’ve never met or corresponded with got in touch and said he couldn’t get out anymore and his gear was just sat doing nothing and it would be great to see some pictures of my boy out hunting. A week later a huge box of absolutely everything we would ever need arrived through the post, cost isn’t the issue here but it would have probably cost me £250 to buy the equivalent. He wouldn’t even accept my covering the postage costs.

recently y, I had the good fortune to be reading a home brewing forum where a chap was asking for some help in building a particular piece of equipment  where he was struggling to find the components.  Luckily, I had all the bits he needed left over from when I built my own brewery and was able to mail them over to him - I figured it was my turn to return the favour.

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Mar 2, 2021 - 12:52:32 AM

3239 posts since 4/22/2018

One of the most lovely acts I’ve ever witnessed was quite a few years ago when we had a large extended family outing to a big aquarium. Whilst distracted by watching some sharks through the glasss, my then two/three year old nephew reached up and took the hand of a complete stranger thinking it was his dad. The chap very gently and discretely tapped my brother in law and slowly they slid the boys hand into his dad’s hand without the little one being aware or having any chance to get scared or surprised. It was so simple but so kind and thoughtful.

Mar 2, 2021 - 3:29:14 AM
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Paul R

Canada

14205 posts since 1/28/2010

Figmo sent my granddaughter a strum stick. Strictly giving on his part. What a generous guy. I'm not the only one he's done this for.

Mar 2, 2021 - 3:53:06 AM
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When we first moved into our town my wife had a flat on her van. My wife is very new to driving and didn't have a clue what to do so she put some air in it and a woman at the store said to take it to a shop up the street. The guys in the shop took her right in and fixed the tire, checked the rest of them, made sure they had enough air and even checked the washer fluid and oil and didn't charge a penny. More to the point they didn't tell her that she needed to buy a new set of tires. Ever since that day they get all of my car work. Even things I can do myself but just don't have the time or inclination.

I try to give back throughout the year. Every year at Christmas I make up a couple envelopes with a $100 gift card and a $50 food card from a local grocery store and give them to the preacher in town because they know folks who need help. This year, because of COVID and all of the work people lost, I made up six. Every now and then if I see someone, especially with kids, putting groceries back because they don't have the money I'll pick it up for them. I figure I make a good wage, especially this year since I'm considered critical infrastructure and didn't miss any work, so when I have extra I try to give a little back. You never know when you might need the person you helped today to help you next week.

Mar 2, 2021 - 5:01:29 AM
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Texasbanjo (Moderator)

USA

25726 posts since 8/3/2003

Many years ago Dave & I were eating at Applebee's and when we asked for the check, the waitress said our food had been paid for. We asked who was so kind so we could thank him/them and were told that the gentleman had left after paying for our meal. We couldn't thank him so...... next time we were at a restaurant we paid for a meal for a couple that we didn't know. We paid it forward. We also left before they could thank us. I thought it was a great idea and a nice thing to do.

I have a friend who is in her 80s and has bad knees and trouble negotiating stairs. When she comes over to play cards, I always help her up and down the stairs. Just a little tiny thing to do, but makes us both feel better.

Mar 2, 2021 - 5:16:13 AM
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wizofos

USA

5905 posts since 8/19/2012

We try to do as much as possible for those who need help. Have cut down rotten trees for neighbor (single mom) and stopped on the side of the road to help people. We gave a considerable percentage of last years federal stimulus money to our local food bank. Doubled our normal contribution to Salvation Army.
Many years ago when I could still ride a motorcycle I stopped behind a car stopped on a freeway entrance ramp. I got off my bike and walked up to asked the young woman if she needed any help. It was obvious that the right rear tire was flat. She rolled down the window about 2 inches and said she did not know what to do (this was pre-cell phones).
Anyway I said if she would open the trunk I would see what I could do. I got the car jacked up and was having problems getting the rusty lug nuts off when a pretty ragged pick up stopped and a bearded guy in overalls came up and helped me. We got the tire off and the spare on. So here is this scared young woman in her locked car with a biker and a dirty construction worker changing a tire.
We cleaned everything up, back in the trunk and I told her through the partially open window to get that tire fixed and to check the pressure in the rest of the tires.
She thanked us and the look of relief on her face was thanks enough. I always think of that occasion and think of women in my family who might need that same help. I have no idea who she was or who the guy in the pick up was.

Mar 2, 2021 - 5:30:41 AM
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DC5

USA

18112 posts since 6/30/2015

quote:
Originally posted by Brian T

Tie one hand behind your back and go grocery shopping. I put my cane in the cart and get along OK until it's time to leave. Trying to carry stuff is really frustrating. I have had some wonderful gestures of help. It's never the store staff. If you can't look after yourself, you shouldn't be in here in the first place.


One grocery store I shop at asks every customer at the register if they need help getting their groceries out to the car.  If the answer is yes, a smiling employee is there to escort and put the groceries in the car if needed.

I'm old enough to remember when bag boys were the norm.  They bagged the groceries, and knew enough to not put the eggs on the bottom, and then they ran the cart to your car and if necessary unloaded them for you.  Shopping carts didn't roll around the parking lot looking for doors to dent. This was also when gas stations sent at least 3 people out to fill your car.  1 ran the gas pump and checked the oil, 1 checked the air in the tires, and 1 cleaned the windshields.  It was like an Indi pit stop every time you went for a fill up.  That and both places gave trading stamps. 

Mar 2, 2021 - 5:44:29 AM
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DC5

USA

18112 posts since 6/30/2015

quote:
Originally posted by Texasbanjo

Many years ago Dave & I were eating at Applebee's and when we asked for the check, the waitress said our food had been paid for. We asked who was so kind so we could thank him/them and were told that the gentleman had left after paying for our meal. We couldn't thank him so...... next time we were at a restaurant we paid for a meal for a couple that we didn't know. We paid it forward. We also left before they could thank us. I thought it was a great idea and a nice thing to do.

I have a friend who is in her 80s and has bad knees and trouble negotiating stairs. When she comes over to play cards, I always help her up and down the stairs. Just a little tiny thing to do, but makes us both feel better.


I'm a big fan of pay it forward and random acts of kindness.  I have often picked up the checks for veterans if I see them eating in a restaurant.  My wife and will sometimes pay for the meals of strangers.  We saw a family once, several kids.  Service was a bit slow as the restaurant was crowded, but the young kids were very well behaved and very patient.  When we left we both commented that we each wanted to pick up the tab for the table.  We talked about it so much on the way home that we decided that we would not let an opportunity like that pass us again.  So ever since then, if either of us had the urge to pick up a strangers tab, we just did it without consult.  On the New Hampshire turnpike you have to stop at toll booths periodically along the highway.  Last time I went it was $1 per car (50 cents per axil).  If I pay with a $5, instead of change I say "That's for me and the next 4 cars behind me"  Only once did I see the toll taker in the rear view charge the person behind me.  Usually they are just waved through. 

I know strangers have helped me a lot, but I am not recalling a specific issue right now. 

Mar 2, 2021 - 6:17:07 AM
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phb

Germany

2560 posts since 11/8/2010

A guy told me that my pal and I saved his life. It was one of the most surreal experiences in my life. Here's the story: we were on vacations in Portugal and were hiking at the Algarve coast. We hadn't seen a living person for hours when we came up a cliff and saw a single car parked. There was a guy sitting in the trunk of the car (it was a hatchback). The lid was closed and the guy was waving at us through the rear window. We went to the car and opened the trunk. The guy sighed in relief and said "thanks, you have saved my life". We said something like "you're welcome" and went our way. We didn't talk for an hour. I still can't imagine the story behind that incident.

Mar 2, 2021 - 6:41:56 AM
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Texasbanjo (Moderator)

USA

25726 posts since 8/3/2003

Dave, the kids and I were out camping many years ago at a very isolated campsite. There were a couple of other RVs, but no office, no help, no telephone, no nothing.

This one camper had been drinking a little too much and decided to climb up on a big overturned barrel to see what was inside a locked cabin and..... he fell and broke his arm/wrist. We were about 60 miles from the nearest hospital. We found a fairly straight branch and used his wife's scarf and put his arm in a sling and used a rolled up pair of socks to keep his hand/fingers in a position of function and his wife drove him to the hospital. The next morning he came over and told us that our makeshift sling had saved him from having to have surgery on his arm and possibly saved him from having hand/finger damage. You never know when your EMT/first aid skills will come in handy

Mar 2, 2021 - 7:03:49 AM
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56988 posts since 12/14/2005

MUCH to my surprise, and TWICE, I'd be doing a performance or selling at an Art & Crap fair, and someone told me they had an unused instrument at home, which they were going to GIVE to me to fix up, resell, and keep all the money for myself.

Once a concert uke, and once five-string banjo.

Mar 2, 2021 - 7:39:27 AM

mander

USA

4559 posts since 10/7/2007

quote:
Originally posted by Brian T

Tie one hand behind your back and go grocery shopping. I put my cane in the cart and get along OK until it's time to leave. Trying to carry stuff is really frustrating. I have had some wonderful gestures of help. It's never the store staff. If you can't look after yourself, you shouldn't be in here in the first place.


I'm sorry to hear that. I help folks inside the store, but seldom outside. I would like to think our staff would help others outside, but I didn't start working here until after Covid started and apparently, folks are suspicious of help at this point. I loved helping folks load their cars when I was a kid. 

I felt for one gentleman a few weeks ago. He was looking for a grip mat and it had to be the exact size because he couldn't use scissors to trim it down. It broke my heart to think he didn't have anyone in his life that would trim a mat for him.  I offered, but he decided he would look elsewhere.

Mar 2, 2021 - 7:43:36 AM

mander

USA

4559 posts since 10/7/2007

quote:
Originally posted by Owen

... copied and pasted from the BHO guidelines for posting: "....not sure if it's acceptable? It probably isn't. :-)  "     

Oh, to be young! ..............  and that's all I'm gonna say 'bout that!!  smiley


lol!

Mar 2, 2021 - 7:49:09 AM
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3239 posts since 4/22/2018

quote:
Originally posted by phb

A guy told me that my pal and I saved his life. It was one of the most surreal experiences in my life. Here's the story: we were on vacations in Portugal and were hiking at the Algarve coast. We hadn't seen a living person for hours when we came up a cliff and saw a single car parked. There was a guy sitting in the trunk of the car (it was a hatchback). The lid was closed and the guy was waving at us through the rear window. We went to the car and opened the trunk. The guy sighed in relief and said "thanks, you have saved my life". We said something like "you're welcome" and went our way. We didn't talk for an hour. I still can't imagine the story behind that incident.


There's an old chap who lives in my village who makes me out to have saved his life in quite a funny/nice way.  He runs a camping site within 1 minutes walk from my home and one day as I was working I saw the Air Ambulance helicopter looking for somewher to land.  I work quite closely with the Air Ambulance so i went out to see if I could help (usually it's helping carry a stretcher into the aircraft/keeping sightseers away when taking off etc).  Anyway, the old man had chest pains so they wanted to fly him to a heart specialist.  As I knew him, I took the head end of the stretcher and talked him through what was going on until I wished him good luck at the aircraft,

He gladly made a full recovery.  Now, if ever i go into our local pub, (which is always very busy with tourists) and he is in, he always shouts really loudly across the bar that he is buying the man who saved his life a drink - it is usually then regailed with a story of medical prowess and herosim (which is absolutely nothing remotely close to what actually happened and bear in mind that there was a doctor, a paramedic and an ace pilot involved who don't get a mention) to any of the tourists sitting near him.  it used to be quite awkward, but now it's a standing joke with the local people who go along with the theme ''yes it was amazing but he doesn't like to talk about it''  smiley

Mar 2, 2021 - 9:20:56 AM
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figmo59

USA

32963 posts since 3/5/2008

I do not mind sharing or giving..
If folks pay it forward...that is the best that can be...

Random folks have done real nice things fer me too...


That makes me think it is perpetchual....

Otoh....
I have recived...meanness.....
I try..to make me...it's final..stop..

I would like to say I am a 100%..successful at it...
But ..I'm afraid that...I am only human...
Like all folks...

Mar 2, 2021 - 9:23:09 AM
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figmo59

USA

32963 posts since 3/5/2008

As Red Green would say... "We're all in this together"... :0)

Mar 2, 2021 - 9:39:10 AM
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Brian T

Canada

17987 posts since 6/5/2008

I made a point of helping the less fortunate when I was younger.
Why? Simply because I could walk and carry stuff and do things that frustrated
and discouraged others.
Now I know those feelings. As long as I can sit, I can do all sorts of things.

We have a community services agency here. Seniors can phone and get all kinds of volunteer help.
Sunday, I got my overhead kitchen light fixed. 5 minutes but with my sense of balance, changing bulbs is out of the question. I got along without it for a couple of months. Now I have to remember that the dang things is working again!

There was a day-care program for people with developmental disabilities where I worked.
They all sat together in the cafeteria with their packed lunches. Their care givers were such a bunch of adults. They had no clue how difficult modern packaging can be for these people.
I was the only faculty member that I ever saw who went from one person to the next, around their table, and opened their food and drink packages.

Mar 2, 2021 - 9:44:09 AM

figmo59

USA

32963 posts since 3/5/2008

What a great idea Brian.... :0)

Mar 2, 2021 - 3:30:17 PM

Buddur

USA

2919 posts since 10/23/2004

I received a RAOK today. An Utz delivery driver gave me two bags of potato chips. He asked me if I like salt & vinegar potato chips....and I said it's my favorite flavor.

What a nice guy.

Mar 3, 2021 - 10:32:11 AM

35 posts since 3/2/2021

Me for them. Child sitting in its speedy stroller one warm mid-day the parent unaware that his young tots woolly pink bonnet had slipped down covering over both her eyes was bawling out and crying out so loud ! I couldn't bear her misery. I hestated at first then run after and lifted over that bothersome bonnet I was met with a pair of sweet blue eyes that blinked at me. I explaned to Dad he was very grateful. Only thing on his mind was catching their train he said.

Mar 3, 2021 - 11:42:03 AM
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DC5

USA

18112 posts since 6/30/2015

quote:
Originally posted by Buddur

I received a RAOK today. An Utz delivery driver gave me two bags of potato chips. He asked me if I like salt & vinegar potato chips....and I said it's my favorite flavor.

What a nice guy.


Off topic, but S&V chips (crisps for UKers) are my favorite too.  Last week there must have been a run on them because I went to 3 stores and could not find any in any brand.  They were finally in the store this past Monday. 

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