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Jan 19, 2021 - 5:25:34 PM
2114 posts since 6/19/2014

This seems to be disease of our age. Of five daughters, two are already taking a low-dose anti-anxiety med and a third needs to start. The neighbours' eldest daughter should really consider it as well. Without the drugs, these girls worry about everything -- I mean literally everything, including most things that are outside their control. Will they like me? What should I say? What should I do? Is the mail going to get there on time? What if the line's busy when I call? Are you sure the stove is off? Etc., etc. It can be maddening at times trying to pacify and sympathize. Mostly I want to throw up my hands and yell "Who cares?" but of course I don't. The meds do help, as does a nice glass of wine (for me and my wife!). Has anybody else noticed this trend?

Jan 19, 2021 - 6:05:51 PM

9847 posts since 8/22/2006

Do they spend a lot of time on social media?

Jan 19, 2021 - 6:22:34 PM

J e f f


3532 posts since 12/16/2009

Kind of sounds like me at times. The worrying part. Maybe I need help, too.

Jan 19, 2021 - 6:30:06 PM
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7074 posts since 2/14/2006

I have been diagnosed with a myriad of different mental disorders at one time... anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder and schizophrenia. Although there is a genetic element to these disorders, there is also very much an environmental element that triggers the genetic part. Stress. Stress can cause so many problems. I had to work through counseling and medications to get myself under control. But at the base of anxiety and stress is a need to connect with truth, in order to have a reliable and trustworthy anchor to believe in, and a need for purpose. I'm still working on the purpose part. The meds don't come without side effects, and mine destroys my metabolism while it offers hope in other areas. So I am not able to work a regular job. This sense of purpose has kind of been relieved for me as I do some audio work at the computer at home.

I hope they will be ok - I've been through it all. Time will tell.

Jan 19, 2021 - 6:54:18 PM
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6512 posts since 2/9/2010

We have always lived with a certain degree of disfunction but the past 10 months has really turned up the heat. Aside from U.S. politics all we hear about here in extended detail is Covid 19 . We haven't been to anyone's home in several months and nobody has been here. Our Covid numbers seem to be stable at the moment but this situation could turn on a dime. I think it pays to be older in this situation because we probably don't miss as much as a typical young person who is use to an active social life. Being social today means a game of Russian roulette every time you go to visit a friend or friends. Putting the risks out of your mind will help you enjoy the evening but if you have a normal intelligence you will probably be weighing the existential risks in your subconscious mind. The plague may be under control within a few short months but the emotional destruction may take years to heal according to several experts.

Jan 19, 2021 - 8:47:54 PM



13510 posts since 12/11/2003

I had a nice conversation with one of my high school buddies, we usually get together by phone over the holidays. He mentioned that one of his two daughters is basically disabled because of anxiety. Managing multi-therapies wouldn't be a problem for my friend, they've all been tried and continue to be used, but her problem is evidently so profound that she can't really do much of anything at this time.

Jan 20, 2021 - 1:43:14 AM
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2430 posts since 11/8/2010

A girl-friend of mine twenty years ago had an obsessive anxiety disorder. She was taking pills against it. She hid that fact from me for quite some time. When I learned about it, I did the most foolish thing. I told her that I wouldn't want any drugs in my brains that change my personality and behaviour (I still find that a very frightening thought but I should have kept my mouth shut). Because of this reaction of mine she decided to lower the dosis of her drug without consulting her doctor. Her obsessive disorder broke through again and eventually destroyed our relationship. The most stupid part about all that was that I didn't realise until years later that that behaviour of hers that was so hard to endure was just the consequence of her lowering her dosis.

Given the above my thoughts about anxiety, phoebia and depression may be just as ignorant and stupid. My belief is that a lot of those problems come from lack of physical interaction with your environment. Staying inside from an early age because there is only street traffic outside, sitting motionless for hours in front of a TV or computer, information overflow. Then of course parents who teach you from an early age that you are inevitably going to die from pneumonia if you don't put your sweater on. TV news constantly telling you that in some part of the world people are dying. Turn off all this stuff, go outside, move your body until every part of it aches. Watch birds, clouds, trees. I don't believe that a child that gets soaked in puddles, climbs trees, rides a sled down a wooded hill, rides bicycle, gets cold or hot from, builds a hut in the woods etc. is likely to develop any of those problems. These are things that teach a child to trust and when to mistrust their senses and body. Later in life you can get disconnected from your body in a similar way. When I feel down it usually is a sign that I need to do sports again. When I then do sports again, I feel great and sometimes actually wonder what good news there was that makes me feel so good. I then remember that there were no good news nor anything, just the exercise I did. Mens sana in corpore sano.

Jan 20, 2021 - 3:15:53 AM
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579 posts since 9/6/2019

I think one of the big reasons it seems so prevalent now is that kids aren't being taught a lot of coping skills. Every feeling is valid, which is true, but not every feeling rises to crisis level and that is how things are being treated now.

I also think a big part of it is the dependence on social media for validation and to get "likes" or how many "friends" and "followers" you have on fakebook, instascam, and crapchat. When I was young you worried about how many friends you had in the neighborhood and not what some internet troll in California thought of you when you lived in Maryland.

Jan 20, 2021 - 6:06:17 AM

Paul R


13898 posts since 1/28/2010

I'm not saying that it's a universal remedy at all, but I found that, for me, physical exercise helped to relieve stress. I commuted by bicycle. After a rough day teaching, I got out of the classroom and onto my bicycle. I'd often take the long way home, trying different routes over different roads and, sometimes, trails. By the time I got home, no worries, no frustration.

I wonder how much sitting in front of a computer and absorbing so much social media has to do with the problem. That said, there is, for many, the need for a prescribed chemical regimen. Everyone is different.

There's been research into the effects of artificial light on our well-being. Is it the more technology we develop and use, the more problems we create?

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