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Sep 28, 2020 - 3:10:06 PM
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Each year around this time, for reasons best not discussed on a site which forbids religious topics, I find myself wondering: have I done more good than harm in my life? I spent 25 years as a Legal Aid lawyer, which must surely count for something, but I was paid a decent salary for the work, and I now enjoy a decent pension, so does that nullify the good? I don't have any enemies that I know of, and I've tried to be kind, generous, and helpful to all my friends and acquaintances, although admittedly with mixed success. And as this year's fast comes to a close, I wonder what my score would be, if such a score were kept.

Have you done more good than harm?

Sep 28, 2020 - 3:13:08 PM

ChunoTheDog

Canada

407 posts since 8/9/2019

I like to think I pay for my sins every single day.

Pay the Man. In judgement you will be saved, perhaps even if you've done more harm than good.

Sep 28, 2020 - 3:19:22 PM

9668 posts since 8/22/2006

Did you follow the rules? Did you harm anyone in anyway while following the rules? Did you treat others as you wanted to be treated? In other words did you practice the golden rule?

If all come back as yes then why are you questioning the outcome?
 

Edited by - 5B-Ranch on 09/28/2020 15:22:22

Sep 28, 2020 - 3:22:42 PM
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chuckv97

Canada

52876 posts since 10/5/2013

Someone once said “everyone works out their own salvation through fear and trembling.” (paraphrasing).
I’ve done some harm, some has been done to me. I don’t harbour grudges though, and the past 25 years have hopefully seen me move into being a better and more relaxed person. Spiritual beliefs and practices help, imho.

Edited by - chuckv97 on 09/28/2020 15:32:39

Sep 28, 2020 - 3:50:36 PM
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figmo59

USA

31906 posts since 3/5/2008

We are all guilty of some bad.....

Sep 28, 2020 - 3:51:40 PM

figmo59

USA

31906 posts since 3/5/2008

The Movie...Unforgiven kinda addresses..this subject..

Sep 28, 2020 - 4:22:27 PM

9668 posts since 8/22/2006

quote:
Originally posted by figmo59

We are all guilty of some bad.....


Now the question becomes, how do you handle that guilt?

Sep 28, 2020 - 4:38:06 PM
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Owen

Canada

6516 posts since 6/5/2011

I think I've done okay, so I plan to continue my KISS approach.... make a decent attempt to be a decent person and let the chips fall where they may.

Sep 28, 2020 - 4:50:58 PM

9668 posts since 8/22/2006

On the other hand one could take this approach

foxnews.com/lifestyle/elementa...r-his-ink

“Existential Crisis”

Sep 28, 2020 - 4:57:31 PM

ChunoTheDog

Canada

407 posts since 8/9/2019

quote:
Originally posted by 5B-Ranch
quote:
Originally posted by figmo59

We are all guilty of some bad.....


Now the question becomes, how do you handle that guilt?


You don't. You just move on. Can't change the past. 

Sep 28, 2020 - 4:58:26 PM

2673 posts since 4/19/2008

Sounds like a google of "Filthy Rags" would be in orderwink

Sep 28, 2020 - 5:05:18 PM
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9668 posts since 8/22/2006

quote:
Originally posted by ChunoTheDog
quote:
Originally posted by 5B-Ranch
quote:
Originally posted by figmo59

We are all guilty of some bad.....


Now the question becomes, how do you handle that guilt?


You don't. You just move on. Can't change the past. 


Hopefully we learn from our guilt and refuse to repeat the behavior that caused the bad. 

Sep 28, 2020 - 5:06:21 PM
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ChunoTheDog

Canada

407 posts since 8/9/2019

quote:
Originally posted by 5B-Ranch
quote:
Originally posted by ChunoTheDog
quote:
Originally posted by 5B-Ranch
quote:
Originally posted by figmo59

We are all guilty of some bad.....


Now the question becomes, how do you handle that guilt?


You don't. You just move on. Can't change the past. 


Hopefully we learn from our guilt and refuse to repeat the behavior that caused the bad. 


I totally agree.

IMO that's what separates good people from less good people. 

Sep 28, 2020 - 5:41:07 PM
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chuckv97

Canada

52876 posts since 10/5/2013

I always figure guilt is a sign that a person has a healthy conscience. Some people get overblown senses of guilt that can cripple them mentally. Guilt is only beneficial for a short while, after that it can become toxic. imho

Sep 28, 2020 - 5:54:44 PM

3530 posts since 7/8/2010

I have got over the bad that has been done to me so I say to the bad I have done to others, just get over it. So there. We are squared.

Sep 28, 2020 - 6:03:39 PM
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6980 posts since 2/14/2006

I’ve definitely done more harm to myself and others than good, because even my good deeds were selfishly motivated. But my guilt has been taken care of.

Sep 28, 2020 - 9:02:44 PM
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10838 posts since 1/15/2005

Well, the Apostle Paul called himself a "wretch". I can't imagine that I am any better, but that is not the point ..... can't go any further than that!

Sep 28, 2020 - 11:35:23 PM

263 posts since 10/4/2018

The last thing I worry about is whether I am following the rules or not. I don't go out of my way to harm people, but sometimes I do some harm. I go out of my way to do good sometimes, but I won't brag about it, like certain people love to do. Who knows if I have done more good or more bad? I don't think it really matters in the scheme of things.

Sep 29, 2020 - 4:08:20 AM

5789 posts since 9/5/2006

as i have gotten older i look back and think i have wasted alot of my life,,, not doing as much as i could,,, chasing the dollar,, i kept a roof over our heads and food in our mouth and a warm place to live. and tons and tons of mistakes too. if not for my beliefs i would never achieve atonement . guilt? yeah got plenty to go around,,, did some good working with youth in my 30s and 40s . made a few people smile with my banjos (made a few frown too) ..... helped some elderly along the way ,, and shared knowledge of my trade with younger folks. so not all bad .... but still have my guilt trips.

Sep 29, 2020 - 6:28:08 AM

Owen

Canada

6516 posts since 6/5/2011

Guilt trips???    That's what "It seemed like a good idea at the time" is for.    wink

Sep 29, 2020 - 9:26:45 AM

466 posts since 10/9/2017

quote:
Originally posted by Banjo Lefty

Each year around this time, for reasons best not discussed on a site which forbids religious topics, I find myself wondering: have I done more good than harm in my life? I spent 25 years as a Legal Aid lawyer, which must surely count for something, but I was paid a decent salary for the work, and I now enjoy a decent pension, so does that nullify the good? I don't have any enemies that I know of, and I've tried to be kind, generous, and helpful to all my friends and acquaintances, although admittedly with mixed success. And as this year's fast comes to a close, I wonder what my score would be, if such a score were kept.

Have you done more good than harm?


I do the same for what are likely similar reasons. We do get a bill of particulars that you can match your conduct against. One of those is being dishonest in one's business dealings: did you overcharge for your services? Did you deliberately do less than your best for your clients? If not, then how does getting paid a fair wage and a decent pension qualify as a sin or transgression? We get to do this every year, of course, but that really only applies to one particular Party. If you think you wronged someone, then you should make amends directly.

I'm pretty sure I've done little harm, but I'm quite sure I could have done and could yet do a lot more good. But the hour is late, the task is onerous, and the Overseer is stern.

Sep 29, 2020 - 10:36:42 AM
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rinemb

USA

12562 posts since 5/24/2005

I have had in mind for many years buying a bunch of tricycles to give away at Christmas. (a means of atonement for a teenage stupidity). This day and age I suppose tricycles are not in style? What do youngin's prefer nowadays? tricycles or other means of transportation, such big wheels or what?
Brad

Sep 29, 2020 - 10:48:44 AM

5789 posts since 9/5/2006

quote:
Originally posted by rinemb

I have had in mind for many years buying a bunch of tricycles to give away at Christmas. (a means of atonement for a teenage stupidity). This day and age I suppose tricycles are not in style? What do youngin's prefer nowadays? tricycles or other means of transportation, such big wheels or what?
Brad


Sep 29, 2020 - 4:26:13 PM

73335 posts since 5/9/2007

I harmed a lot of lobsters in my life.
I hope I haven't hurt my banjos too much.

Sep 30, 2020 - 7:31:18 AM

Wyozark

USA

1038 posts since 12/2/2012

Sometimes out of nowhere it seems, particularly when I'm lying awake, I think about things I've done or said years and years ago and I cringe. I like chuckv97's perspective.

When is that "older but wiser" thing supposed to kick in?

Can't do anything about yesterday. But can try to do something good today.

Edited by - Wyozark on 09/30/2020 07:43:11

Sep 30, 2020 - 8:53:09 AM
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Paul R

Canada

13207 posts since 1/28/2010

When I look back on 32 years in the classroom ... boy, would I have done a lot of things differently.

But recognizing your errors (in judgment or action) one thing; thinking you've never made mistakes is self-delusion.

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